I am really conscious that for those people who are really short of self belief and have an utterly ‘deflated balloon’ that simply praising them is sometimes a little like water off a duck’s back. I believe that offering ‘evidence based praise’ is a really powerful inflator – they cannot wriggle out of receiving it. So often my charge to parents and teachers is to exercise the more passive skills of observing and listening. If we are able to say “I saw you, I heard you… or I noticed you…”, the receiver cannot deny their significance. Our title today encourages us to work on this habit of noticing positive things and attaching it with an ‘I saw you’ or a ‘I noticed you’ – this is very different to constantly noticing them doing things of a negative nature.